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Dear Sirs, Please Tell Us What’s Wrong

posted on: Apr 23 2013

Dear Sirs, Please Tell Us What’s Wrong

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Before anyone gets up in arms about what I’m going to say, please consider that I address this commentary to the very small number of men who lose it every year and shoot people dead.  It’s always men, isn’t it?  A comedian once asked, “Have you ever noticed how all these mass murderers are always men?  Well, women kill, too.  We marry you, then nag you to death.”  All joking aside, it’s a point worth thinking about.

Do we encourage boys to be violent?  Not anymore, and not for a long time.  Anyone who has kids today knows the phrase “use your words.”  Hitting people is bad, requiring a time out.  And old-schools parents who spank are seen as one step up from pure scum.  Some parents still practice corporal punishment, to be sure, and a lot of study has been done into backgrounds of gun murderers.  There does seem to be a correlation between being physically abused as a child, and turning that rage on others.

But in general, maybe the bigger problem is that men aren’t encouraged to explore their feelings enough.  Maybe we still live in a world that wants men to put up, shut up, and simply perform.   Women had their movement several decades ago where they griped about the roles of wife and mother, broke through the corporate glass ceiling, and demanded their reproductive rights.  Men didn’t have the same moment to explore what being a man can and should mean.

The other half of this dreadful problem is, of course, the guns.  A young man interviewed on television after the Senate failed to pass any of the recently proposed gun control measures said, “Just because bad things happen, I don’t have to lose my right (to buy guns).”  Okay, what about the rights of the rest of us not to be mowed down because some messed up guy, who can’t work out his feelings in a productive, responsible way, decides this is the day to take out a small segment of the population so he’ll feel better?

Think about it gentlemen, and tell us what’s wrong.  More importantly, tell us what we can do to help.



  • I actually just read an article last week about a woman who was a teacher who was getting laid off or something like that. At an employee meeting for the next year she took out a gun and started shooting. It struck me as particularly scary because it says anyone is capable of violence, even a highly educated woman.

    I don’t know why it’s usually men though. When I grew up I listened to violent music (most of which was awful and I hang my head when I think about listening to it), watched violent movies, and played violent video games. I don’t own a gun, never will, and have only felt the desire to shoot someone once or twice. (I really hate getting tailgated.) All joking aside I wish there was a simple answer for gun violence, but I don’t think there is one.

    April 23, 2013 at 7:09 pm
  • Here’s a link to the article. Pretty scary stuff.

    April 23, 2013 at 7:14 pm
  • Pro Gun Guy

    Making guns illegal is not going to make them nonexistent. Those intent on causing violence and destruction are going to find a way to do so. You have have a right to protect yourself and therefore you have a right to own a gun. It is also necessary “to the security of a free State”.

    April 24, 2013 at 7:57 am

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